Wednesday, December 18, 2019

Doctors orders for living a life of abundance

Doctors orders for living a life of abundanceDoctors orders for living a life of abundanceDr. Julie Rosenbergis a physician, keynote speaker, leadership coach, avid yogi, and author ofBeyond the Mat. Her passion is helping people embrace healthy lifestyles and enhance personal leadership skills in order to thrive. She joinedTasha Eurich, an organizational psychologist and theNew York Timesbestselling author ofInsightfor a conversation about how to stay centered in a busy world.This conversation has been edited and condensed.TashaYou and I first met as members of a group- selected by Marshall Goldsmith- of 100 leaders in their fields, who come together and share their skills and knowledge. I was so struck by what a unique set of experiences and expertise you have- youre a physician and a trained yoga instructor, and your lifes work is about the intersection of those two things. Im curious, what inspired you to take this unique path?Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines o n Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moraJulieI worked as a pediatric oncologist in a large krebs center for many years, and then evolved my career to drug development. Finding the balance between being in the trenches, but also being an observer was important for me, because a lot of the time when were so immersed in the work, we dont see whats actually before us.I found that I was using many of the principles and practices of yoga to manage corporate life because its so demanding. It has so many uncertainties and so many things that can be difficult and complex to manage. The story of yoga really caused me to pause to reflect. The practice creates space to think, and in that thinking space, we become mora creative, more aware. Being aware of my environment and aware of others is just so critical that I really wanted to share it. What you need to do to succeed may be as simple as pausing and reflecting, andmaking a better decisionat the moment.The practice creates space to think, and in that thinking space we become more creative, more aware.TashaYou talk in your bookBeyond the Matabout this idea of enlightened leadership. In a practical sense, what does it mean for the leaders to be enlightened?JulieFirst and foremost, it means that we can all be highly effective leaders. Those who are enlightened leaders have a sense of servitude. Theyre committed to making the world a better place, to their ongoing growth, to transformation and purposeful leading and living. In these commitments, we can make a high-level contribution to our work, to our families, and to society as a whole. When we adopt that viewpoint, it allows us to reach this place of greater enlightenment, because we know whats critically important, and what will serve us and others in the short-term and the long-term.Those who are enlightened leaders have a sense of servitude. Theyre committed to making the world a better place, to their ongoing growth, to transformation and a purposeful leading and living.TashaIf somebody wants to take one step forward to become more enlightened and achieve some of those benefits you just talked about, what are one or two practices that they could departure doing right away?JulieWell, the work that you do, Tasha, in terms of exercising a level of insight and self-awareness, is critical in taking that first step.We need to be open to ourselves.We need to be aware of whats going on in our bodies, in our hearts, and then we can live in a way that allows us to be aware of ourselves, our environment, and to serve others in a better way.Another thing to do is to define the purpose of our work. We have a more purposeful and fulfilled life following this clear introspection and becoming more aware of whats really driving us.The last thing Ill emphasize is self-care. Youve got to put your oxygen mask on first- you cannot serve others until you serve yourself. You need to be grounded and be in a place that sup ports your own health and well-being to be able to serve others and do your work well. I think this is an area where people really fall down so much. They hear that they listen to it, but its in one ear and out the other.Youve got to put your oxygen mask on first- you cannot serve others until you serve yourself.TashaIn my bookInsightI talk about my love-hate relationship with self-care practices likemeditation. I know I need to do it, I know its good for me, but I dont particularly enjoy it. What would you say to the Type A person who is reading this? How can theyincorporate some of those self-care practices into their lives in a tangible, practical way?JulieI also find that difficult at times and, quite frankly, I dont always have the time. However, most of us can find three to five minutes in the morning or evening to sit quietly and meditate. Whenever you can find a few moments, pause, sit quietly, minimize your distractions, and focus on your breath or a single point, like a ca ndle flickering. Thats been the key to my success. I call it meditation on the move.TashaIts such a simple insight, but I had never really thought about that until I read your book. I dont have to sit cross-legged in a dark room for thirty minutes. I was reading your book on a plane this week and realized, Wow. I could put this book down and do one of these great two-minute exercises right now. And so, I did. That was just such a big aha moment for me- everybody has time when were waiting. When youre at the doctors office, or on the train, or in the car, or on a bus- all of those opportunities provide such a great space to practice, even if its for two minutes.JulieWhen you tried it on the plane for two minutes, did anything shift for you?TashaWhenever I meditate, even for just a minute or two, I feel calmer at that moment, more clear-headed. The key for me is to do it in the times when I feel like I have the least amount of time. Meditation helps me the most when Im stressed.Anothe r thing Ive learned from you comes from the practice of yoga Satya, which is Sanskrit for truth. We all want the truth about the universe, but to get there weve got to start with the truth about ourselves. What do you think the relationship should be between self-improvement and being content with who we are? How do you find that balance in your own life, and what would you recommend for leaders who are on that journey?We all want the truth about the universe, but to get there weve got to start with the truth about ourselves.JulieContentment is often hard to find when were always striving for more, better, or different. We have to be able to define what is truly important to us. I just lost an executive position in a major company due to a corporate restructuring, and basically there was nothing I could do about it. So at that time, I had an opportunity to reflect and determine what was important for me for that next step in my life, in my career. When it first happened, I had a lot of anger, but then I tried to breathe through it. I tried to sit quietly and find a space of contentment.What I realized is that maybe the opportunity for me to deal with that challenge iswhat I needed. I have to redefine what is important for me. What could I do if I could find a place of contentment, instead of rage, upset, and anger? How can I use this to become more creative? How can I make this work for me? I really encourage everyone to find whats important, sit with it, find a place to reflect, and just be, and really try to move from there.Because passion and purpose really do lead to a life of abundance.TashaThats so true, and that personal example you just shared reminds me of our colleagueWhitney Johnsons work- she talks about disrupting ourselves. Sometimes we are disrupted without wanting to be disrupted, or without requesting that we be. One thing she says that I think is really powerful is that our constraints are our motivators, and if we dont have constraints, that s when we are less creative, less resourceful, less successful. I think thats a good message for all of us.If you wanted to impart one daily practice to the folks who are reading this that will help them become a more enlightened leader, what would that practice be?JulieBreathe. The breath is something that were often not aware of. In times of stress or anxiety, we often hold our breath, but the breath opens space. I know folks are busy, so Im talking about one minute- focusing on the breath can help you feel less anxious, feel more grounded, make better decisions, and find that space of contentment.TashaThose are doctors orders, right? So weve got to follow them.JulieWell, it would be nice if everybody followed doctors orders, but even better if they made their own orders to live and lead a better life.This article first appeared on Heleo.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

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